Darwin is misquoted and the error turned into an urban myth. Darwin did not say a species is dependent upon the survival of the fittest. He said the survival of a species is dependent upon those most adaptable to change.
If I want to be adaptable to change, I know I must embrace everything I resist. I must lose those 20 pounds. I must exercise even though I would prefer to do anything to avoid it. I will drink water and eat enough protein for my body’s self repair and enough fruit and vegetables to keep my system running smoothly.
There is a lovely lady whose 102 year old hand is on the cover of my book. She told me she was always being asked the secret of to living to 100 and she always answered the same way. She said, “The secret to old age is having a positive attitude and moving very carefully.” How often do we see a broken hip, shoulder, take away the freedom of an otherwise healthy senior? How often is depression obvious to everyone around a senior but medication or even a discussion of the consequences of depression is refused?
If I have negative, critical thoughts, I will depress my immune system and will be a sitting duck for flu and colds. If I don’t ask for help when I need it, I will sap my energy doing things I should not do, leaving me with no energy to do the things I love doing.
Asking for help can be critical to quality of life.
When, as an author, I speak to a group of seniors or adult children, I always ask the question, “Have any of you been to a class reunion lately?” There are always a few hands that go up. Then I ask them, “Did you wonder what all those old people were doing there?” This always brings the laughter of identification.
Seeing ourselves as 20 years younger than we are keeps us from enjoying the activities of the local senior center and sets up a resistance to moving to a 55 and older Senior Community, Retirement Community or Assisted Living Facility when it is needed
Be careful of the time warp, it may not doing you any favor. Make a decision, long before you are ready to move into the next phase of life long before you need to do it. Don’t miss the fun of living in community because it is filled with old people (who may be your age.)
The American Medical Association publish an article in the AMA Journal, titled “The Mortality of Caregiving.” The article states that someone caring day and night for a spouse or loved one who is bed ridden or suffers from dementia has a 63% higher death rate than someone the same age who is not a full time caregiver. (12/15/1999.)